Assuming positive intent means being curious about why certain actions make sense to other people so we can better understand their point of view. I find the following steps to be shortcuts:
- Pause. Take a moment to breath and think about the other perspective.
- Would I say this in person? If you are writing your response. Maybe calling the person is a better idea!
When we assume positive intent it does not mean that we think everyone does the right thing all the time. Instead it is realizing that most people are doing the best they can given their current situation and pattern of thinking.
A small experiment shows that mindfulness training exercises may help people who drink large amounts of alcohol. Mindfulness is a method of quietly, but fully, experiencing what is happening in the present, both in and around you. The mindfulness study involved 68 heavy drinkers in the United Kingdom. The subjects were not alcoholics, but they did have more alcohol to drink than most people. Some of the subjects received training in relaxation methods. The other subjects took part in an 11-minute training program in mindfulness exercises. The program was designed to help them recognize their desire for a drink without acting on it. Over the next week, the group that received mindfulness training drank much less than they had during the week before the study started. But the subjects in the relaxation group did not drink much less. Damla Irez is with University College London. She says the study did not involve ‘treating’ people who needed help cutting down their alcohol use.“But it did suggest that people who drink too much, but don’t have an alcohol use disorder, might be able to reduce their consumption, at least in the short term, by practicing mindfulness,” Irez said by email. The Reuters news agency reported her comments. A report on the study was published in The International Journal of Neuropsychopharmacology. During the mindfulness training, people were told to pay attention to their desire to drink instead of ignoring this feeling. They were told that, by noticing bodily sensations, they could accept them as temporary events without needing to act on them.
via Quick ‘Mindfulness’ Fix May Lower Alcohol Drinking
Part of being mindful for me has been presenting myself the way I feel represents myself best. @influenster and @marcbeauty sent me an amazing #complimentary eyeshadow palette. I got Glambition #thedressedeye and it’s my new daily look! I love it.
Mindfulness is paying attention to the present moment. I struggle with this on a daily basis due to the constant urge to multitask and be more productive.
The linked article explains that mindfulness is “literally making an effort to focus only on one thing. You read me right: monotasking.” There is a lot of data showing that practicing mindfulness has a variety of benefits for well being. The American Psychological Association cites mindfulness as “a hopeful strategy for alleviating depression, anxiety, and pain.” The article goes on to state that this mental practice can even moderate the brain’s amygdala, which is the “fight or flight” response center.
I hope to use this blog to share my personal experience as a trained counselor using mindfulness to benefit my well being.
via Mindfulness: What Is It and How Can You Use It?